I was browsing my way through a gift store recently when I was once again reminded that when we pay attention, we realize we are surrounded by wisdom.
In this case it was a simple wall hanging that contained a quote from the Dalai Lama that said “When you lose, don’t lose the lesson”. It got me thinking. What he was sharing in those simple words was the truth that sometimes life just happens. No matter how hard we try to control the universe, there are times we are forced to embrace the reality that despite what our primitive ego would like to believe, we do not control the universe. Sometimes we encounter failure. We lose.
Learn the Lesson of Failure
When those moments enter our life, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to enter the darkness and once again encounter the terrible fear that we struggle to keep hidden in our unconscious; the fear that we “are” inadequate; that we actually “are” a failure. It’s a very rare person that does not harbor that fear in their unconscious.
The reality is we are not failures or personally inadequate, our primitive ego simply got lost “again” in the illusion that we can control the universe; the illusion that we can control everything that life brings us.
What the Dalai Lama was reminding me of in that gift shop is the deeper reality that when I lose or encounter failure in my life, the only real failure is not embracing the lesson embedded in the experience. If I lose the lesson, then I really have failed.
He was saying;
When life falls apart, ——-don’t lose the lesson.
When we fail, ——–don’t lose the lesson.
When our dreams unravel, —–don’t lose the lesson.
When things don’t work out the way we wanted them to work out, ——don’t lose the lesson.
What the Dalai Lama was reminding me of is the simple truth that every experience in life has a lesson embedded in it. When we lose the lesson, we truly have failed because we have lost the opportunity to embrace the wisdom needed to make wise future choices; the wisdom to evolve our consciousness and more intentionally choose the paths we want our life to take.
Without the ability to make choices in our life, we are forced to live our life as a victim; helpless and powerless to learn and grow when the universe brings us the inevitable lessons embedded in all of life’s experiences.
I smiled, silently thanked him for the reminder, and continued browsing—–aware that we never know when life is going to offer us an important piece of wisdom——a piece of wisdom that could improve our life.