In order to reduce stress in our life we need to change our beliefs.
Mark Twain once said to a reporter interviewing him ” I have been through some really terrible stressful things in my life……some of them which actually happened.”
It’s important to keep in mind that stress and unhappiness do not come from what happens to us as we journey through life….they come from our reaction to those events when the life event collides with our beliefs.
And the more we hang onto our beliefs, the more we limit our ability to experience life.
Our beliefs do not represent reality itself….they are only what we think about or believe “about” reality. They are nothing more than a lens that distorts the experience or light of true reality.
So how do we go about changing our beliefs?
One of the best ways is to look for spiritual gremlins. Those are the people who seem to insist on driving us crazy, annoying us, making us angry, or frustrating us whenever we are around them. They are the best spiritual teachers you will ever find.
Why? Because every time they annoy you or make you angry, they are giving you an excellent opportunity to look at the beliefs you are holding that they are experts at stepping on.
For example, they may interrupt you every time you start to speak. Or they may challenge everything you say. The anger or frustration you feel when you’re around them may be nothing more than your narcissism or ego rearing it’s head. Who do they think they are interrupting me! I can’t stand know it all people.
Always keep in mind that what we don’t like in others is probably the very thing we need to pay attention to inside ourselves.
I’m not suggesting that you would want to spend a lot of time around such a person, but as a spiritual gremlin they are good at reminding you that perhaps your ego is having trouble simply being a listener. If so, you might want to practice letting go or emptying your ego.
Spiritual teachers refer to that as practicing emptiness of ego. When we can learn to change our beliefs we can learn to change our lives.
We create our own stress. It does not come from others or the events we encounter in our lives.
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