Coping with change and surviving the crises that life sometimes brings us can be challenging. Surviving divorce is certainly one of those challenges.
In fact, there are few changes or losses in life more painful or disruptive than divorce.
The changes created by a divorce impact almost every facet of a person’s life.
Anyone who has experienced a divorce will know what I’m talking about.
But despite how it might feel, divorce does not mean our life is over.
Like all the big changes that life has a way of bringing us, divorce can be an opportunity to re-define who we are, and to begin creating a new life based on our larger life purpose…….an opportunity to begin creating the life we have been dreaming about.
But these opportunities will come only if you have the courage to survive the wilderness you will find yourself traveling through after a divorce; a wilderness that can be dark and frightening.
When life’s journey leads us into the wilderness, those with the courage to move forward and embrace the experience will have the opportunity to learn some of life’s more important lessons and deeper wisdoms.
It is in those wilderness crucibles of pain and struggle that we come to know who we really are, who we want to become, and the kind of life we want to create for ourselves.
The routines, distractions, and never-ending responsibilities of day-to-day life have the numbing ability to put us to sleep; to render us unconscious to the reality that we have been unknowingly living a life that others have created “for” us…..an unconscious way of life that probably began as far back as early childhood.
The wilderness is a magical and mystical place of awakening to the passion that is possible in this thing called “our life”. It simply requires the courage and a willingness to embrace the experience and the pain that we encounter there.
It is helpful to remind ourselves there is no birthing without pain.
Without a wilderness experience, growth in self-awareness and the authentic spiritual growth that comes “through” growth in self-awareness, is almost impossible for most of us to achieve.
The wilderness confronts our unrealistic expectations, certainties, and beliefs, that distort reality……especially our human tendency to want to “push the river” and avoid those realities that are painful.
Because we tend to embrace growth and personal transformation best when the pain of where we are is worse than the fear of where we have to go, the wilderness can be a powerful crucible of change and personal transformation.
Without the growth and change that the wilderness encourages, life would quickly become boring and depressing.
An anonymous poet once described our personal consciousness as a brilliant flash of light, which is then followed by darkness for eternity.
Our growth in self-awareness—–being fully aware and present to our own personal flash of light——the awakening of our consciousness that comes from our wilderness experiences—— is one of life’s greatest gifts
No journey toward enlightenment can successfully avoid traveling through the wilderness.
Divorce will certainly take you there, but courage and the willingness to grow while you’re there will take you toward your dreams.
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